Addiction Part 1

A few weeks ago I was meeting with someone I mentor. We got onto the topic of prescription drug addiction. Working with fighters, this is something I see often. On the heels of having my shoulder replaced and being prescribed the very drugs many people I know are addicted too. I found the conversation even more timely. Lets be honest, I want off my painkillers asap!

Dan surprised me with his knowledge of addiction. Something he has meticulously researched. Something he has battled and overcome. I learned so much in that short meeting I asked him to write a blog on it. Brevity has never been one of Dan’s strong suits so this will be shown in 3 parts. Here is part 1:

I, ADDICT: THE DRUG PROBLEM (1)

By Dan Carpenter on 2/10/12

“His only thought was to wake up and wonder where he’d get his next fix, how he’d score, and where he could sell this stuff.”

Addiction is anything but a simple subject. It is often misunderstood, ignored, unseen, and miss-assessed. It is at the center of a million painful stories, as many broken hearts, and is, by it’s ambiguity, a modern boogeyman. So we’re going to tackle it here, in some depth, by Brandon’s request. And, as this is a companion message to Ryan’s (excellent) message from Sunday – we’re going to borrow from Ryan with thanks, who provided us a parable of his friend David’s descent into drug abuse. But were going to go very different places with it. We’re going to take it for a spin to provide common language in foreign places. To help illustrate just how thorny this issue is.

Because no matter what I promise you this – this story of David, of drugs, of addiction and sin is ANYTHING but simple to judge – even if it is simple as a caution. It’s also, for so very (very) many of us, a glass house we’d best not cast stones in.

The Parable of David & Addiction (this being David from WA, not David King of Jews)
David descended, step by stand by sit, into drug addiction and a lifestyle of sin. Speaking to Psalm 1:1-3, Ryan charted choices that ran from alcohol to pot to a lifestyle of hard drugs. An archetypical tale, it matched the psalm perfectly, and matches a million real life stories even better. Well chosen, it used an illustrating subject – drug use – that is condemned in both secular and biblical culture. Which makes the moral really clear & the story easy to follow.

Right?

In Ryan’s case – yes. He had a point and a story. Close subject.

But in general?

Not necessarily. Not. At. All.

Because the truth is, by focusing on a subject condemned in both cultures we run risks – of missing the morals as applied to socially acceptable (or socially celebrated) choices, and in landing on judgement without enough information to justify it. Why? Because the combined force of a social and spiritual push to judge shouldn’t be underestimated, by anyone.  It’s a very powerful set of pressures – one of which matters completely, one of which our faith directly cautions us against (Romans 12:2).

So – I’d like to look at a story less clear. One with a moral a little less easy to follow. Ironically, the same story – but with a few changes.

But first, before we dive in, we have to define what were dealing with. The sin. We need to define David’s drug addiction as sin. I mean, we know it’s bad… but why? What sort of sin is it?

Is it a sin of the body? It can be, a defilement of our temple (1 Corinthians 3:16), but it isn’t always so. After all, what of my grandfather who lay dying of cancer, taking painkillers for two years as he withered? That’s a medication that will physically addict it’s user no matter how pure the spirit. It is also one with a great physical cost in intoxication and in trauma to the liver and lungs.  Was my grandfather committing a sin of the flesh to take his medication? He was an addict, unavoidably, but was he sinning?

Is it a sin of the spirit? It can be, a defilement of the Law in placing idols before God (Exodus 20:3-4), but it isn’t always so. After all, what of one of my brothers, who requires medication to treat a hindrance of his mind, a hindrance that causes him to worry and obsess, to crave and to fear constantly? The medication is all that allows him to live at all normally, it is vital to his life and it is not something he can control – at the whim of doctors, laws and lottery. Has he built an idol to his medication in considering it vital – in his nature of worrying to fret and think and worry about his medicine? His lack of control of it? He is addicted, no question, to this medication which keeps him from chaos. So, he too is an addict, but is he sinning?

Is it a sin of excess? It can be, a form of gluttony or inebriation (Ephesians 5:18), but it isn’t always so. What of my one of my sisters, who takes a strong medication yet resents it all the while? She is addicted, her biology has seen to that and yet she resists, taking as little as her health, her faith, and her will allow. A constant struggle she is in fact addicted, but is she sinning?

I don’t think so.

Which leaves us with a problem. Addiction can be any of these things or all of these things but isn’t necessarily so. So how do we judge? Based on a doctors involvement? On Caesar’s ruling of what is lawful and what is not? Can we afford to treat all addiction everywhere as equally sinful, as the same thing?

I don’t think so.

Doctors prescribe unneeded medications all the time. Patients seek the same, with many finding themselves in surgery after surgery… that aren’t needed. Doctors are not the gatekeepers we need; they simply cannot be counted on to do the job – their compass is logic and data. Data changes and logic will create new rules. Same for Caesar… constant change. Did you know that cocaine was used (here in the US) to treat morphine addiction 100 years ago as a prescribed medication? That it is still used, today, in the US, as a topical anesthetic for nasal and eye surgeries? Or that heroin is named for ‘heroine’ because it was supposed to save people from Demerol?

And what of these many designer drugs found in tobacco shops, fresh from the same companies that make our ‘medicine?’ Drugs that will be illegal, someday, but aren’t? And what of that most potent, dangerous and addictive of all drugs – the legal hard drug, alcohol? When it was outlawed our nation faced a near civil war in black market violence – it made the US look worse than Mexico does today. More alcohol addicts die of their addiction than any other kind and yet… so many of us are okay with having ‘a beer.’ Would those same people be okay with having ‘a snort?’ Probably not, and yet in practice they are essentially the same thing (a fact that does NOT excuse drug use – it calls into question what were doing when we choose to drink) – its a choice to use an addictive and dangerous drug to feel pleasure. Regardless – that tension we just had, right there, is what happens when we let Caesar define our moral boundaries.

No. Neither Caesar nor our doctors can be counted on to keep us from sin – or to give us the basis to understand when others are or are not sinning. They’re ‘of the world,’ inconsistent, and not up to the task of safeguarding our hearts.

Which, come to think of it, raises yet another point – what of all the people (whom we may not well understand here in our suburban cultures with insurance and rx discounts) who medicate themselves? Folks who live off the gird, away form doctors and government? People using drugs to healthful purpose outside of social rules as we know them – but with benign and healthful intent? Is the individual who buys antibiotics for an infection without a prescription doing something morally repugnant or wrong? If not, would they be to do the same thing to treat an anxiety disorder? How do those differ?

It’s a mess isn’t it?

A mess. And this mess is the heart of the ‘drug problem’ – the problem being that it isn’t simple, not at all. Addiction is a word that is inadequate to the task, representing too many disparate things. Because physical dependency to a chemical and drug abuse – the CHOICE to misuse or use too much of a drug – are COMPLETELY separate things… and neither of those are addiction itself. They are potential pieces of a larger whole; the tail and fin of our white whale. Or, as I prefer to see it – symptoms of a larger problem – symptoms that are most often diagnosed, and treated, as the disease. A disease that is far more common, and far more deceptive, than many of us would suspect.

Goodbye to 40, Hello to 41

Yesterday, I turned 41. My 40th birthday was pretty epic. Yesterday was but a blip on the radar. I have been told that 41-49 are fairly anti-climactic. If not unmemorable.  Fortunately, as a blogger, I can’t reflect and record, for posterity sake, my memories from these years. Starting another tradition, every year, the day after my birthday, I am going to look back on the previous year and highlight my top ten memories.

The challenge will be to find 10 highlights from each year. Lets see how I do. These are in no particular order.

  1. Israel.  I have always wanted to take a trip to the Holy Land. For many reasons, money, time, political unrest, I haven’t had a genuine opportunity until this year. It was especially awesome because I was able to share the experience with my wife.
  2. Vacation with Di to Hawaii. Both Di and I turned 40 in 2011. For her 40th birthday I surprised her with a trip to Hawaii. I had arranged everything all the way down to childcare for the kids. Since I only gave Di a week notice it took her several hours to mentally adjust to leaving so soon (and trusting I had really take care of all the details). Everything worked out and it was a blast.
  3. Hawaii (again) with the kids. Di and I had such a great time when we went, we decided to go again a few months later with the kids. In preparation for the trip I watched Lost with the kids. They became Lost fanatics. Besides spending hours at the pool, their favorite past time was visiting all the different Lost sights. Another cool part of the trip is that my parents decided to join us at the last second.
  4. UFC 126 and The Super Bowl in Las Vegas. My brother-in-law and I started a tradition a couple years ago where we take a bunch of guys to the Super Bowl in Vegas. The UFC always has an amazing fight card that weekend too. It is always an incredible experience. In 2011 we went with a great group of guys. It was an awesome time. They say a picture says a 1000 words. I don’t know what this says but it sure reminds me of Vegas.
  5. The New Building. Our church had outgrown our building. We were in desperate need of a place to have services until we were able to complete our construction project on Highway 9. Unfortunately that project was going to take about 4 years. We were out of options. God provided an AMAZING solution. The building by Boeing is a miracle.  
  6. Ream and Run Surgery. If you pain even a remote amount of attention to my blogs or my Facebook you are well aware that I had my shoulder replaced in November.
  7. Advanced Coaching with Church Leader Insights. In October, I began my third year of “coaching” with Church Leader Insights. The previous two years I flew out to New York once a month. This final part takes place in Orlando. The coaching network has made a profound impact on my life and my church.
  8. Cage Fighting in the USA. Several times throughout the year, a film crew from Current TV flew up and interviewed me. They spent several weekends taping our services and talking with fighters I chaplain. In December the episode aired. I have had an average of 5 contacts a day since from people watching the program. It was the most positive portrayal of our church and our Fight Pastor ministry yet. I was very encouraged!  
  9. My daughter made the high school soccer team. I can’t believe that my baby girl is in high school. She has grown up into an amazing young gal (I couldn’t say woman. It was too much.) This year she tried out for her high school soccer team and made the JV squad. She started every game at outside mid. I was so proud. Now I need the years to start slowing down before she goes away to college.  
  10. Travis Kerwin aka Kermit got engaged. I have known Travis since he was in junior high. He turned 30 this year. Travis has been a part of every ministry I have led. He has been a huge part of Fight Pastor. The only thing missing from Travis’s life was Mrs. Kermit. Finally, God moved several mountains and brought Rebecca into his life. I haven’t seen him since. Be careful what you pray for.  
  11. Took Elijah to his first UFC fight. My 11 year old son, Elijah, is just as obsessed with MMA as I am. He watches every fight with me. He knows every fighter. He has been begging me to take him to a fight for a long time. Since Vegas is no place for children he had to wait until the UFC finally came to Seattle. They did this year. Elijah was able to sit ringside!  

I tried to keep it at 10 but couldn’t get it below 11. Having 11 highlights in one year is pretty amazing. Turning 40 has been great. A great year for me, my family, and my church.

Cage Fighting In The USA

Just finished watching the special, Cage Fighting in the USA, on Current TV. I wanted to take a moment and share my thoughts. I have to be honest and say I was nervous how my church was going to be presented when I saw the trailer. I was blown away by how positively they presented our church and our MMA ministry. So quickly my thoughts…

It was awesome. I loved seeing our worship pastor lead worship on national television. I loved seeing clips of all the fighters who are a part of our church. I loved the footage of Tim getting baptized. I loved that my dad was shown wearing a referee jersey.

Most of all, I love the way Jesus was represented. Our mission with Fight Pastor has always been to make Jesus look good. I think that happened.

I know the camera puts on 10lbs but after seeing that, I need to lose 20….

Also wanted to mention that Emma also attends our church. For whatever reason that was not shown in the special.

I want to thank Mariana van Zeller and Alex Simmons for presenting me and my church in a fair manner.

In case you missed it, here is the link.

Fight Pastor Insider

Tonight in about an hour a special called Cage Fighting in the USA will air. It is an hour long special about how MMA is becoming a mainstream sport in America. I was interviewed multiple times for this special. With all the media attention our Fight Pastor ministry has received over the years I have come to understand the misconceptions that arise. I figured I would address them before I have even seen the special.

To be honest, I have no clue how they are going to present me, our MMA ministry, or our church. In anticipation here is an inside glimpse at Canyon Creek Church, Fight Pastor, and me.

Relationship with Current TV:

This past summer I was approached by Current TV about a special that was going to focus on faith and mixed martial arts. They wanted to focus on our local ministry and some fighters that were in our church. This request came right after the fighters in the picture above got baptized. I agreed to do the interview.

The film crew flew out and spent the weekend interviewing several fighters who attend my church. They also filmed our church service and then interviewed me after church. Several months later they came back and filmed at our church again. After that service they interviewed me along with one of our fighters. At that particular time the fighter shared with me some news about a life altering decision he was making. I had no previous knowledge of his decision, which I still believe is a very bad idea. His decision was sprung on me while the cameras were rolling.

I love Tim. I ignored the cameras and ministered to him as I would have had they not been in the room. I was very candid. I have no clue how that will be portrayed. Just be aware that Tim and I met for about an hour. I love Tim. I believe in Tim. I also believe there is a battle going on for his life. As his pastor I will fight for him, just as I would for anyone else in my church. I hope that is accurately portrayed.

What about turning the other cheek?

After any interview I get bombarded by people who are shocked that I am involved in MMA. They quote Matthew 5:39 and say Jesus said to turn the other cheek.

I believe in the principle of turning the other cheek. If someone wrongs you. Don’t return evil with evil. Don’t wrong them back. If someone lies about you. Don’t respond by lying about them. If someone offends you. Don’t offend them back. Be the bigger person. Turn the other cheek.

This has NOTHING to do with MMA. MMA is a sport! It has regulations. It has rules. It is a combat sport. I have no issue with an MMA fight within the confines of a sanctioned event. I am not for professionally trained MMA fighters getting into a fight outside of a sanctioned event. Just as I am not for an NFL player getting into a fight in a bar. Or a hockey player picking on someone outside of a shopping mall.

MMA is a sport. A combat sport but a sport. I grew up loving boxing. My loved for boxing has evolved into a love for MMA. I grew up loving watching Mike Tyson fight. I still have the Kid Dynamite Sports Illustrated issue. I now love watching Anderson Silva fight.

Are you a fighter?

This is the biggest misconception people have about our Fight Pastor ministry. They think I am a pastor who fights. No, I am a pastor who ministers to fighters. I do not, nor will I ever compete in Mixed Martial Arts. I am a 40 year old man with 3 kids and a bad shoulder. My opportunity to compete passed by me long before the first UFC event.

So I am a pastor who enjoys watching MMA and loves people. My love for people and MMA has allowed me to minister to a great number of fighters. I am their pastor.

Do you have fights at your church?

No, we do not have live, actual fights at our church. We could never insure such an event. We do, on occasion, pay for the licensing rights and show a pay-per-view UFC event on a Saturday night for the community. We haven’t done this for awhile though. Our next scheduled event is in January.

So what is Fight Pastor then?

Fight Pastor is our chaplaincy ministry to mixed martial artists. Fighters have coaches, managers, promoters, and trainers. Those individuals do a great job training the fighter and managing his career. But who helps with their spiritual life? Who helps them when they are struggling with something in their life? Who steps in when they are having marriage issues? That is where we come in. We have no desire to manage or promote fighters. We are simply here to support fighters. We are here to meet the spiritual needs of fighters.

We attend their fights. Pray for them before their fights. We support them win, lose, or draw after their fights.

So you have a church of fighters?

No! We have a church with fighters in it. Most of those fighters are married and work other jobs. They attend our church along with 800 other people. I consider it one of the greatest privileges of my life to pastor Canyon Creek Church. Our church has many different ministries to our community, our MMA ministry is just one of them.

Final Thought:

I am not sure how you feel about MMA. I am not sure how you feel about a pastor being involved in MMA. If you have a personal conviction to the contrary, I don’t have a problem with that. I unapologetically enjoy MMA. I unapologetically love people. Those two passions have grown into a pretty cool ministry for me. We call that Fight Pastor.

Here are a couple other blogs I have written that might interest you:

Fighters Who Love Jesus

Breaking the Silence

Never Back Down 2

I recently rented the movie Never Back Down 2 The Beat Down from the Red Box. There are very few things that I would ever complain about paying $1 for, such as tap water, candy bars, chewing gum, stamps and now this movie.

I bought the first Never Back Down movie for $4 in a back alley flea market in Central Mexico; I liked it because it was a Mixed Martial Arts version of The Karate Kid. My expectations and excitement levels were as high as Lindsay Lohan on the freeway.

The first thing that drew me to this awful movie was the director/actor Michael Jai White. Most people would think of the guy who played Spawn in the movie from 1997, not me. My mind flashed back twenty years and I got him confused with Jaleel White, the kid who played Urkel in the show Family Matters.

Once I realized I wasn’t going to watch Urkel catch someone with a flying knee-bar, the movie went down hill faster than the Georgian Luge team.

*************Spoiler Alert**************

Four strapping young lads all wind up training under Case, a former World Champion who now lives in a motor home in a lumber yard, or maybe a garbage dump, or shipping yard, it wasn’t important. Each of these young men share a difficult past, as well as a lack of body hair. There is Mike, a former All-State wrestler who is angry at his dad for leaving his mom for another man. Word of this gets out and he often  gets picked on about it which causes him to fight angry. Zack is a former boxer who is forced out of the sport due to partially detached retinas, so he decides to train for an underground, unsanctioned MMA tournament as a safe alternative. Justin is a long haired, dorky kid who works at a comic book store. One night he is walking home when he is attacked by three bullies. After they stab him, he stumbles across Case’ “training camp” which is a pull-up bar, a punching bag, and a section of carpet set up next to his RV. Justin has all the anger issues of being picked on his whole life and does not know how to channel that energy so he lashes out. He is later kicked out of the dojo for brutally attacking those hooligans who beat him up in the beginning of the movie. The last fighter we meet is Tim, or Ted, who cares, his name isn’t important. He is played by former UFC fighter Todd Duffee. He is the giant with the heart of gold. One night while waiting for his mom to get off her shift at the strip club, he stops a fight and is offered a job as the security chief on the spot. He agrees to take the job as long as the boss fires his mom so she doesn’t have to work there anymore. I’m not really sure why that scene was in the movie.  I met Todd Duffee in Las Vegas before his fight with Mike Russow. I asked him to say “Hi this it Todd Duffee, check out FightPastor.com” into a camera. He looked at me, looked at the camera and said “NO!” Come to think of it, Rampage did the exact same thing to me. After I wiped the big boy tears away I went out and got plenty of other fighters to talk to the camera and make me feel validated as a man.

The think I did not like about the movie, besides not having Urkel, is that they only show 3 angry kids with troubled pasts training for an underground unsanctioned fight.

Real MMA takes a lot more training and discipline than these movies are willing to show.  Some of the best fighters in the world are college educated family men who don’t live to fight but rather they fight to live. I believe the Warrior had the best depiction of a true MMA fighter who  is played by Joel Edgerton, a teacher with a wife and kids who is fighting to keep his house. Movies like Never Back Down make MMA look like human cock-fighting which is one of the main reasons it has taken so long to become what it is today. The only good thing about the movie, besides the 2 minute scene with Not-Urkel practicing Karate with Lyoto Machida for no reason at all, is the fact that Eddie Bravo was brought in to help with the jiu jitsu to make it look more believable. There were some great submissions in the movie.

If you are looking for a movie to watch and feel great about yourself, watch the Care Bears movie because Never Back Down 2 left me wanting less.